Angela Merkel Lost Same Sex Marriage Battle In Germany

A total of 623 parliamentarians were seated to decide the contentious issue of same sex marriage in Berlin the German capital and the votes were eventually 393 voting for same sex marriage, 226 voting against same sex marriage while 4 decided against voting. 

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At the end of the day same sex marriage was legalised in Germany but there were facts to note with regards to the same sex marriage being legal in Germany.

1 The German Chancellor Angela Merkel was stoutly against same sex marriage and she even voted against it but that is all she could do as far as modern democracy is concerned. She strongly believe that marriage is a man and woman thing as clearly taught by traditional Christians.

2 Two political parties in Germany, Christian Democratic Union and Christian Social Union were also vehemently against same sex marriage; Angela Merkel belongs to the Christian Democratic Union.

3 A political party called the Social Democrats played a major role in ensuring Angela Merkel allow the same sex marriage vote to take place, they made it clear that that is what will guarantee their continual working together in other aspects.

4 Same sex marriage couples in Germany will now be allowed to adopt children because it is well known that it takes a man and woman to make children which is lacking in same sex marriage unions.

The final fate of the bill will be decided by the German upper house of parliament and in most cases that may just be a formality because having gone through the lower house, the upper house definitely will assent along the same line to make the bill a full law in Germany.

Man Beats Wife Up Because She Wants His Big Manhood

I would rather be fine with an SBM than to suffer with a BFN, this was probably what Trish must have decided in her mind when she confronted her husband Thabani on that fateful day. 

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In case you are wondering what the acronyms means, I will educate you here and now: SBM means 'small but mighty' while BFN stands for 'big for nothing'. The wife was very proud of the husband's big penis but she was always disappointed because the husband cannot last long in bed.

"He just sleeps on top of me and after about four minutes he would be done. I would be still having urge to indulge but he just sleeps next to me. When I ask him to continue with the act he would say I am troublesome and promiscuous" lamented Trish.

On the day that Trisha confronted her husband about the situation, she did that just to ensure they talk it over and get a solution together but the husband would never have any of that as he felt demeaned and resorted to violence beating her up.

"After I discovered the problem and seeing that we have to save our marriage I spoke to him but he got angry and accused me of seeing other men. I stood my ground and told him that he fails to satisfy me in bed although he has a big thing. It gets flaccid after a few minutes of action" she narrated.

The wife has no choice than to take the matter to court in order to put an end to the serious beating she received from the husband. The husband on his side did not deny the fact that he mercilessly beat her up and was honest enough to confirm the wife's accusation.

"At the moment I am at loss of words and I don't know what to do. I beat her out of anger because she insulted me saying I was as useless as an ox" the husband admitted. He even went further to indicate that he has been to traditional herbal doctors to seek for help but could not get a lasting solution.

The presiding magistrate sternly warned the husband never to beat the wife again but rather they should go for counselling according to The Zimbabwe Mail.

Girlfriend Orders Wife To Sleep On The Floor In Her Matrimonial Home

Judith is a dare devil lady who against all odds have decided to follow her heart and damn the consequences. She has formed the habit of visiting her boyfriend Douglas on regular basis in his matrimonial home knowing fully well that Douglas is married and living with his wife.

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Nakei the wife of Douglas got fed up with the whole exercise because each time the husband's girlfriend come visiting she always order the wife to sleep on the floor while she had sex with the husband. The girlfriend would usually come and spend up to a week prompting the wife to sue the girlfriend in a magistrate's court.

"Your worship, my husband's girlfriend started visiting our house this year in February and ever since she comes and goes as she pleases. Whenever she comes she orders me to sleep on the floor and has sex with my husband while I'm watching. I hate her behaviour and I don't want her to come to my house" lamented the wife.

The wife who is a non violent woman, had tried too talk sense into her husband's girlfriend but she would not listen and had therefore decided she could not put up with the husband's girlfriend because she is ill mannered.

"I tried to talk to her woman to woman so that she can at least do whatever she does with my husband away from my home but she told me she's here to stay and I'm the one who will go and leave her in my house"

"Whenever she's in my house she uses my property including my blankets, pots and she never washes them. She also uses the toilet and does not clean after her mess" lamented the wife.

The girlfriend Judith on the contrary denied all the allegations, she claimed she had known Douglas for 26 years and also admitted she know Douglas has been married to the wife for 22 years. According to The Zimbabwe Mail, the girlfriend further said she only went to Douglas house because he stole her documents which she wanted to retrieve.

"We have been renting a house together and he usually came to my house to spend days and therefore I feel like he's my husband too" 

"I only go there because I need my documents and besides I'm not a small house because I fell in love with Douglas 26 years ago. He introduced me and my kids to his mother so I'm his wife too" narrated the girlfriend Judith.

"Ms Judith, you shall stay away from Douglas' residence and shall not conduct yourself in a manner which is likely to result in a breach of peace" ordered the presiding magistrate.

Father Ask His Son To Sleep With His Mother

Mr. Midrof took a weird decision to convince his wife Kerida to sleep with two of his relatives and the wife did not hesitate to grab the offer. The wife initially was sleeping with the husband's nephew by name Jefias before being passed to his son Saxson.

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Kerida was said to have been sleeping with the husband's nephew Jefias until he died prompting the husband to make the alternative arrangement for the wife to sleep with his son Saxson. The man reportedly traveled out town for two months after firming the arrangement between his son and the step mother, this he did to allow them time to bond without distraction.

It did not take long before Kerida's children noticed that Saxson their step brother was sleeping with their mother and thereafter decided to report the matter to the village head who in turn took the matter to the village chief.

During the trial of Kerida and Saxson in the village court, they both confessed that whole idea was hatched by Midrof their husband and father respectively. Midrof thought the only way to cover his impotency as well as to stop his wife from leaving him for other men was to hand her over to first his nephew then his son to help him out.

"I presided over a matter whereby a man was having an incestuous relationship with his stepmother after being asked by his father whose manhood no longer functions." narrated Chief Nemangwe.

According to The Zimbabwe Mail, B-Metro has it that the man was fined accordingly for his misdeed as a consequence.

"I ordered the man to pay a cow for putting his wife and son in such awkwards positions" concluded Chief Nemangwe.

I Dated You To Divert Attention: I Want To Be 2nd Wife To Your Married Brother

A young woman Mleya has created a very big rift between two blood brothers Jabulani and Melusi. Jabulani is a married man while his younger brother Melusi is single. The young woman Mleya who was known to be dating Melusi was caught red handed with Jabulani having sex.

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"Melusi caught his brother having sex with Mleya and a fight ensued. Their other brother who tried to stop the fight was injured in the process" narrated Nombeko a relative of the two who according to B-Metro was disgusted with Mleya behaviour.

Mleya was even adamant and made it clear she only was dating Melusi just to divert attention from his relationship with Jabulani. She was avoiding situation where people will scorn her for dating a married man.

"Elders called a meeting but it became worse when Mleya made it clear that she was not parting ways with the married Jabulani, in the process choosing to be his second wife" Narrated the relative.

Melusi did not take this double betrayal lightly as he felt what happened was unforgivable and the best option was to give his elder brother and girlfriend space for them to carry on with what has kept the villagers busy with gossips.

"I am thinking of going to South Africa for good. What these people did is unforgivable" insisted Melusi.

According to The Zimbabwe Mail Jabulani and Mleya insisted they have nothing to say about the issue which was even complicated by Jabulani's wife clearly indicating that she was not ready to accept a younger wife in her matrimonial home.

Pastor Kills His Wife For Refusing Him Sex

A 54 year old pastor has broken one of the ten commandments that he was supposed to uphold by killing his 44 year old wife. The pastor of the Zion Church in Gwanda had strike his wife with a hoe handle twice when she refused to allow him have sex with her.

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"I can confirm that we have arrested a man who killed his wife after she denied him conjugal rights. He handed himself to the police after committing the crime. We are investigating the matter" Narrated Inspector Philisani.

Ncube's wife Khumalo had been complaining of not feeling well and therefore has been telling the husband all the time that she could not have sex because of her condition.

"Ma Khumalo had been complaining of a sharp pain in her womb for some days. I think it was very intense and might have made sex uncomfortable. With our men of nowadays, they think if you can't have sex with them, you might be having it with someone else" A source narrated.

Ncube got really angry when the wife again told her she could not have sex with him when he desperately needed sex and resorted to violence.

"I heard some people say all was not well at their homestead. On Wednesday night there was shouting and we could hear it through the night. The following morning we heard Ncube had been arrested and his wife was dead." Narrated a source.

According to The Zimbabwe Mail, Inspector Ndebele had urged members of the public to shun violence and resolve issues peacefully.

"We are advising people to see counselling from other family members, church leaders or traditional leaders when in disputes. Fighting is never a solution but results in unnecessary loss of lives and injuries which also result in offenders being jailed." he said.

The 3 Marriage Connections

The success of every marriage depends on many factors which are tied to inherent behaviours of the couples involved in the marriage and what influence they permit or allow to interface with their marriages consciously or subconsciously. Marriages all over the world are not perfect, the only perfect things in marriage are the fruits of marriage, the children; no matter how bitter any marriage turn out to be later on, both parents still have a great degree of love for the kids they have had together, this accounts for the high and prevalent level of custody cases. 

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There are 3 marriage connections which denotes how couples either singularly or collectively influence decisions or behaviours in their marriages which may be detrimental or of benefit to unity of the marriage.

1. The Family Connection

This is specific to couples whose parents are still living and who have siblings either younger or elder siblings. There is somehow a bound within the family such that either of the couples find it difficult to totally trust the husband or the wife on sundry matters. To this type of couple, his/her immediate family is number one and the marriage comes second but this might not mean that such couple do not cherish the partner but just that the couple hold his/her immediate family in high esteem.

The Family Connection is a clear situation where the couple immediate family, be it the parents or siblings is top on the decision tree in critical and major matters of the marriage. Such couple see the marriage as just an association, so to speak and do not have complete trust on the judgement of the husband or wife even after a collective agreement has been reached by them both. The family connected couple will still go ahead and consult the immediate family for clarification and if contrary opinion surfaces, the initial agreement would thereafter amount to futility.

In the Family Connection status, secrets are taken from the marriage and lodged with the immediate family but no secret from the immediate family are ever revealed by the husband to the wife or by the wife to the husband as the case may be.

2. The Friends Connection

This may be but not limited to a situation where couples are orphaned. It may mean that such couple never had a worthwhile home association with parents, perhaps they never had the privilege of having parental guidance owing one factor or the other. On the other hand it may mean that they had friends at their early lives which became so much reliable and trustworthy in such a way that strong bonds became inevitable. This circle of friends also include ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends who they had had intimate relationship with prior to marriage and where such relationships were still open after marriage.

These couples have no immediate family or has no trust in them and therefore place close friends on top of the decision tree. they also do not have complete confidence in the marriage irrespective of whether they are happily married or not happily married. All matters of significance that the couple is not cleared with, he/she will table before friends and whatever decision that was reached will thereafter form his/her position on such issue. The friends connection is somehow found in people who are either socialite, celebrities or people in high places either financially or academically and as such see their parents or partner as no match in decision making ability.

In the Friends Connection status, secrets are taken from the marriage and lodged with close friends but no secret from the opposites are ever revealed by the husband to the wife or by the wife to the husband as the case may be.

3. The Marriage Connection

The Marriage Connection is the ideal situation that is expected of every marriage, a marriage is meant to be a single unit by association with the strength and purpose of pure unity, though this has become very rare in the modern day world. Couples are supposed to be an inseparable pair; 'a man shall leave his family and shall be united to his wife to become one flesh' is a quote from the Christian Bible. All other cultures and religion do not also see marriage differently other than a union of flesh, blood, spirit and soul which should be preserved as such and always.

The one and only source of trust and confidence is in the marriage itself, the couples are fortified with understanding and have great trust in each other. They see the marriage as the alter of unity where every issue of their marriage must be presented; even where there are grown ups and adult children of the marriage, matters still remain tied and concentrated only within the parents circle and out of ear shots of their children. To the Marriage Connection, the couples' parents and their friends are no where in the decision tree rather the couples operate independently.

In the Marriage Connection status, secrets are never taken from the marriage and lodged with the immediate family or friends; the wife and husband conceal every classified marriage issue and deal with it themselves.

How To Know The Signs of Motherhood

Mr. Dick is a nice young businessman who attends one of these modern day 'fire-brand' churches that are also called Pentecostal churches. He is a typical dedicated member who is involved in most church activities but does not fall into the over zealous 'I am holier than thou' class of church hypocrites. He is just a normal simple Christian who eventually found love in Sister Hope a young fair skinned woman with a catchy personality. Hope was in her late 20s while Dick was in his mid 30s.

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It was a perfect match, Miss Hope worked in a new generation bank earning a comparatively good pay while Mr. Dick a businessman was doing well importing and exporting light goods. He occasionally make trips to Dubai and China to meet business associates to facilitate and strengthen his businesses.

Miss Hope is pretty in every aspect; she has nice facial features, average body shape, 5 feet 10 inches tall, swinging hips and bubbling boobs, she is just a complete bunch of beauty that every man must appreciate. Her feature could be likened to the equation S = S + 8 as detailed in a previous post Mathematical Equation of The Shape of Girls. Miss Hope was actively involved in the church choir as a Chorister where she occasionally lead praises in Sunday services.

Mr Dick and Miss Hope dated for three years in a hot and steaming relationship; they all-time love each others company and had the best of sex sessions compared to their previous relationships. They eventually got married in a glamorous wedding which became the talk of the church for some weeks. Fast forward 7 months after their wedding Mrs Dick gave birth to a bouncing baby boy, a handsome bundle of joy! The baby boy was born February 1.

February 14, Mrs Dick put their home in a 'red mood' everywhere was well decorated in an organised manner. She baked a valentine cake with which to celebrate her love for her young family and all these she did without letting the husband in on the plan as it was meant to be a surprise and to show her utmost gratitude for the gift of love and marriage. She had made small note on a piece of paper reading: 'My Val my sweetheart, It is most amazing that despite all my imperfections you still found it worthy to make me enjoy the beauty of motherhood once again'.

Mr Dick arrived home early that day bringing with him his own surprise as well. As he stepped out of his car in the car park, he could smell the sweet aroma of his favourite dish emanating from the kitchen. Briskly he stepped into the apartment walking into the embrace of his lovely wife the mother of his handsome baby boy Justice. He kissed her and walk straight to the very attractive cake but was caught by the note his wife has dropped beside the cake: 'My Val my sweetheart, It is most amazing that despite all my imperfections you still found it worthy to make me enjoy the beauty of motherhood once again'.

Later that evening Mrs Dick broke a long held secret, a dark one in some respect, only because it was kept for such a long time and not because of the situation itself as love does not ask why where the truth is its foundation. Mrs Dick was previously married and has had 4 kids with her previous husband; she was separated for 2 years before she met Mr. Dick. She had relocated from Benin City to Abuja where she had met Mr. Dick. Mr Dick had come home with the key to a brand new car as a valentine gift for her wife which he has not told her about yet.

Whatever happened next is left for your imagination but it is no doubt, Mr dick was highly and bitterly devastated.

Following the above that was based on a true life story, I would want to suggest ways on how to know if she has given birth. It will take a little extra vigilance to make you understand and use these hints to get to know when a lady has had kids, not because having kids is bad but because deception is painful. The two areas you should critically assess in a lady to know if she has given birth or not are the breasts and her belly; there is no sure way you can know through the vagina if your understanding the 4 conditions of the vagina in a previous post is accurate.

1. The Breast

The breast is a give away 99.9% most of the time if only you could be critical enough to carefully observe it out of the bra! Breasts that have been filled with milk to feed a baby for quite a long time will never remain the same when the breast feeding period is over, we all know they enlarge and later reduce in size but not back or close to the original shape. I will use the word Virgin-breast and Non Virgin-breast to differentiate between the breast of a woman that has not given birth and the one that has given birth respectively.

Virgin-Breast that have not accumulated milk for breastfeeding are comparatively rigid and firmly soft; the nipple base is hard with the nipples easily aroused with little stroke of the finger because the nipples are full length and do not sink into the nipple base in some cases. A Virgin-breast could be likened to when you inflate a balloon to its full capacity and bind it to hold the air in; the balloon is rigid and firmly soft.

The Non Virgin-breast is like when you deflate a little air out of the balloon that was inflated to full capacity without shifting the position of the air stopper. The non virgin-breast is less rigid and loosely soft with the nipple sinking into the nipple base in most cases and it takes time to get the nipple arouse and firm compared to the virgin-breast.

2. The Belly

The belly is a give away 99.9% of the time, it transforms from a comparatively flat belly to what I call 'curve belly' and pot belly in its larger state. The expansion of the belly during pregnancy due to fetus growth within the womb makes a lot of changes to the overall size of the belly. After delivery, the belly starts a process of shrinking which if not assisted by prescribed massage and medication may remain largely big resulting pot belly.

A woman who has not given birth will considerably and comparatively have a flat belly as opposed to a woman who has given birth or had a miscarriage at an advanced stage of pregnancy. The belly size is more pronounced in fat women, then less in average shape women but you will take a critical assessment to discern it in very slim women. In some women, you clearly see stretch marks adorning the belly owing the expansion during pregnancy.

Critically assessing the belly of your woman will definitely give you a reliable clue as to whether she has given birth or not though modern science have armed doctors with very good medical procedures that can reduce the belly size back to normal few weeks after delivery but this is at a very high cost which only celebrities can afford.

4 Things That Cause Couples To Have Extra Lovers

Overtime I have been able to gather that the love we use to refer to is no more practicable in real sense of the word; the word love has tremendously evolved to something simpler and lighter. On that note I have specifically refer to love as the willingness to continuously engage in sexual intercourse with someone for divers benefits. People doubt the possibility to love more than one person at a time but the truth is that it is realistic and practicable to do so.

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Persons who have more than one lover do that not necessarily because they do not have love for their partners but because they do it for some benefits which might range from emotional, spiritual to financial and which also means they do it out of love for another person aside their partner as someone also to fall back on when the need arises.

This will lead us to the 4 things that cause people to have more lovers.

1. Suspended Relationships

A vast majority of persons never got married as virgins, this is a fact and an undisputable one for that matter. Premarital sex is common in our societies today despite the very subtle religious opposition to such practices. The only legitimate restriction, so to speak, is the expectation that all who engage in sex must be of adult age, that is, 18 years and above.

On a broader scale, most persons could have multiple sex relationships at a go or on a cummulative basis which means there may be possibility to have at least 5 sex relationships prior to marriage depending on the kind of society or culture. It also may occur that these previous relationships were not cancelled but rather suspended due to various reasons. These reasons might be due to loss of interest at the time, it might be change of job or school, it might be change of location, it might also be pressure from parents or friends. All these put together with other factors not mentioned could lead to the suspension of a sex relationship but not cancellation; these suspended and open relationships are thereafter ready-made channels of re-adventures.

2. Social Media

In a previous post: 'how to know if your partner may be unfaithful' I touched on the big influence of social media in relationships but mostly negatively. We are now in a world where distances has virtually been reduced to just few seconds, a world where information are disseminated at the speed of light. 

Most importantly is the fact that anyone can start a relationship from wherever or right in the comfort of his or her home. These possibilities has made it easily possible to find a sex mate, strengthen such relationships, arrange discreetly for outings and eventually engage in sexual activities. Having ready access to social media apps and understanding how personalised it is for use has created a lot of options for persons who have the urge to explore for more lovers.

3. Marriage of Necessity

At certain age especially in the African, Asian, Arabian and South American societies, men and women are expected to be married with so much cultural importance attached to the need to be married. Where a man or a woman has attained certain age and has yet to marry, tongues begin to wag, questions will then asked, while speculations will become big and maybe harmful; it is likened to a serious cultural failure that requires urgent attention.

The societal pressure to conform or satisfy cultural requirements has led to many marriages being consummated without the required essentials for a formidable and sustainable marriage. Persons herded into such marriages, sooner or later find out that there is no enduring compatibility between them couples. It is therefore further complicated where divorce is seriously frown out in such culture or society; these bottle necks only create avenues for persons to explore the possibilities of having additional lover(s).

4. Dominant Partner

In every relationship there is always the partner who dominates in some aspects of the union; dominance could be in terms of financial stand, sexual activeness, emotional strength, social status, physical beauty, religious recognition and many more. Those dominance that are of concern are financial stand, sexual activeness, physical beauty and social status.

Partners who dominates via financial stand, sexual activeness, religious recognition, physical beauty and social status tends to take advantage of these to engage in extra sex activities. Financial stand would cause one to have the resources to seek for more lovers because such partner has extra monies to spend on frivolities. Those sexually active ofcourse would go the extra mile to ensure their insatiable sexual needs are met especially where such needs cannot be completely satisfied by the current partner. 

The partner with a higher social status has the connections and time to mingle in the course of his or her involvement in social functions. It is an everyday news that divers 'men of God' all over do take advantage of their positions to prey on their members for sex which is most disgusting. Pretty ladies and handsome men are always in the eye of the storm when it comes to wadding off sex advances from opposite sex and sometimes they fall for the temptation or just take advantage of their exceptional qualities to engage in random sex activities aside of their partners.

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Women normally have some issues they only share with their fellow women and hardly do they bring these to the attention of their male partner or spouses. When a woman habitually engage in these three issues with her partner or spouse, there is every tendency that she must be trustworthy, caring and faithful.

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The 5 Classifications of Marriage

Marriage has been existing from time immemorial as means developed to stop fights and brutality on who keeps a woman or not. It has most recently evolved from its simple and intended state to a more complicated ritual. The original conception of marriage is rapidly changing from a simple union between a man and a woman to a more liberal association between male and male; female and female.

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The 4 Aspects in Marriage

The 4 aspects in marriage means the positive characteristics of all 4, not the negatives, could be present in any particular marriage or there could be decrease from 4 to 3, 2 and possibly 1 only.

1. Friends in Marriage

There is sometimes difficulty in differentiating between a union where both persons are Friends or whether they are Lovers and you will only be able to mark the difference if you are let in to their sex life. These persons are not primarily bound by sex but
by social and commercial reasons only and this does not mean they do not engage in sex.

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3 Things That Sustain A Typical Marriage

Just as Money is the most common word used in public and then in private so also is the word Love, I guess it is the most common word used in private and then in public. Every love expressed has a foundation which may either be inherent or derived or both; love has never stood on its own without a reason and much has been said about love which are not true. Love is like life, only very few can share it or give it to others absolutely.

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The True Family Components and Hierarchy

The word FAMILY holds a lot in itself. The chronological order of the alphabets rings a lot of bell to me and I assume it should be also to you by the time you finish reading this. The total number of its characters on its own is like real numbers, they are 6 and they indicate family size. See how I see what the word FAMILY really tells us which you may disagree or agree with depending on your assumptions, motives, intentions, ambitions and religion or non-religion.

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Should I Marry Her or Should I Not?

I met this girl few years ago and her name is Princess. 

I just graduated and as expected was searching tirelessly to get a Job and start a life of my own. I met her in the office of the manager who was to collect my credentials for possible short listing and interview.



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